A series of recent experiences, compounded with some things I have read, have really impressed upon me the importance of men stepping up to the plate to be the men that God has called them to be.
Here are a few things that have come to mind:
1. Persue Christ in the Word of God and persue holiness. Get on your knees, beg if you must, so that Christ would be larger in your vision every day. Find Him in the Word, and then seek to obey God intensely, trusting in Him both for the supply and for the results.
2. Love your wife intensely. Cherish her, water her like a delicate flower, gush over her, adorn her, beautify her, protect her, provide for her. Think of her often, even when she isn't there. Seek to do things for her that show her how much you cherish her. Take her hand, hold her, enjoy activities with her that you might not otherwise do. Have sex with her daily, if possible. Love her radically. Die to yourself, daily, for her. Embrace the self-denial and even the discomfort. You will come to love it, even when it hurts. Love her because loving her in this way is serving God -every day, not just when things start going bad.
3. Stop playing church. Commit to church. Get in there and work, volunteer, pray, etc. Find out what the mission/direction of your church is and get on board with it. You are part of something much, much greater than yourself -the Body of Christ. Stop the Sunday-morning-only games. Live as one in the Church. Seek to serve, to build, to display Jesus to others, to love, to welcome, to bear up with others, to engage your community with the gospel, etc.
This is not "manning it up to Jesus." This isn't about bumping chests, pulling up our bootstraps and saying "Yeah, let's be 'real men' for Jesus." This is about seriously thinking about the high callings God has for us, being broken under the weight of them, falling on our knees in dependence, trusting daily in the cross and His live-giving power, and endeavoring to seriously obey Him -trusting in Him for the results and the supply.
I am reminded of something I read in Mark Driscoll's "Confessions of a Reformission Rev." There is a part where he remembers how he chewed out a lot of men at a meeting, calling them to basically stop being either pansies or perverted jerks, and, as they left the meeting, he handed them each two stones saying, "Today, God has given you your balls back..." Amen.
O God, unite my heart to fear Your name. Make me the man you want me to be.